Guilty of acting like a snake

When I was young, there was a very famous story of a man who was out for work and he saw a snake, curled up, hungry, worn out and cold. He took the snake home. He took really good care of him , fed him, made him warm in front of a fireplace, let his kids play with the snake. But suddenly he saw that the snake was trying to bite his kids, the farmer got angry and killed the snake.

I don’t exactly remember the moral of the story, because only thing we learn in our school is to be nice to everyone, good or bad, irrespective of the way he/she treats u. May be the purpose of the story was to tell us that there are some people who wont repay us for our good deeds, and that they will still look for opportunities to hurt us in any way possible, no matter how good we are too them.

And right now I am trying to understand the snake, why did he try to bite, when the farmer was really good to him … may be it’s a snake’s nature to bite. ........

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I have finally decided to re-decorate my room and wanted to do something new and different and as Google has answer to everything I just googled it, I came across something which I m sure most of you havnt heard before… its "Feng Shui'"

Because the Chinese were so renowned for their herbal medicine, acupuncture, kung fo etc . I decided they must be right about feng shui; and I decided to feng shui'd my room.

Feng Shui is an ancient art developed over 3,000 years ago in China. It reveals how to balance the energies of any given space to assure the health and good fortune for people inhabiting it.

For example :
• A bell by the front door leads luck in; a bell by the back door leads luck out. so I should move the wind chimes to the front door.

• Dried flowers are good for decoration; but because they're dead flowers, they're bad for feng shui. So Out should they went.

• Out went the live plants in the bedroom because they create too much energy for sound sleep. Because live plants are good in rooms of sick people, I should have some in my office. No, I am not sick but people there really need some live energy.

• Sleeping with your feet facing the door is the death position. ( I hope some of you got scared by this :P )

• Any sign of water in the bedroom promotes misunderstanding, and complications in life.

• A mirror in the bedroom causes a third person to enter an otherwise good relationship. (I was planning to have a full length mirror in my room :O )

• Feng Shui can also help loose weight :P… you just have to uphold more water signs and colors like green and blue in your kitchen and dining room. ( I wish loosing weight could be so easy :P )

• You should never display a big clock in your bed room. The only clock that is allowed in the bedroom, feng shui-wise, is a small alarm clock that can be easily tucked away.

I am still not sure what im going to do with my bed room but I like the concept of decorating home keeping these aspects in mind. We all know and believe that colors and other stuff like candles and perfumes does have an effect. So wish me luck for my room and Happy Feng Shui-ing! :D

(Dear Readers, i couldt come up with an interesting and attention catching title for this post... suggestions for this blog post title are welcome.. ill change if u can suggest anything good and interesting)

Brain Dead!

9:25 am : its been whole month I havn't written anything… Today im definitely going to try.

9:45 am : 15 minutes I have been staring at my red colored blog ( may be its time to change its layout a bit )

10:05 am: Can't find anything to write and can't find any good template either :(

10:45 am: Ah Tea time!... exactly what I need to think of something

12:45 pm : Should read something, will stimulate some ideas [blog catalog, Ezine, MSN, google News]

1:15 pm: Hungry

3:05 pm: "iphone 3G S is released"…

3:24 pm: "Woman Who Missed Air France Flight 447 Killed in Car Crash" ( its like Final Destination Returns for the 4th time)

4: 35 pm: Just deleted half a page of trashy stuff that made no sense at all.

5:01 pm: what the hell.. I can see my blog infront of my eyes even when m not looking at the screen… may be I am hallucinating…

5:35 pm: Time to pack up… may be I should stop trying to write something and wait to be strucked by lightning :P

A Pied Piper for Pakistan

i was going through a friend's blog... he seems quit affected by our country's political and economical condition... i was reading some of his posts and i was thinking about what he was trying to do...

Rebel's Voyage this is his blog if you wanna knw what i mean

Actually he is right about everything he has mentioned... but i think that instead of one superman dragging one corrupt politician out on road [just like that anil kapoor's movie in which he became CM for one day], i think that we should have more of a higher through put method to this political cleansing thing.

Are you thinking what i am thinking ??? yes!! we need a pied piper. We need a stranger dressed in bright red and yellow... who can get rid of the rats...who can lure all the corrupt ones and then make them jump off the cliff... cool method, huh?

what if something happens to me ?

I have a strange heart.. I fell in love with things + people, I m close to… yesterday a strange thought struck me… what will happen to my blog(s) if something happens to me?.. (honestly I don’t have a high traffic blog but still….).

We really don’t like to think about it, but the truth is that we don’t know whats written for us and stuff happens :$

Most of the time when somebody asks “what if something happens?” question, many people don’t have a good plan in such situations. You must think that if something bad happens to you; Who would alert your chat friends, net friends, orkut communities, Facebook pals, online clients??

What would happen to my blog if I am no longer around? Not attractive possibilities, but certainly something to think about.

Appoint a guardian or having a God Father/Mother for my Blog:
Open vacancy, please send your resumes with your passport size photographs and an audio and video clip too ( many people look hell different than they actual are :P)

Sell or pass on my blog:
I would appreciate if my guardian/lawyer gets a written document and an agreement on my terms and conditions.

It’s best to be prepared rather than being sorry, no matter how unattractive the thought is.

Do tell me if you have any interesting plans for your blog in your absence and also if someone would like to make me the guardian :P

Some Where in Time

(personal tribute to the most romantic love story ever filmed)

Elise's soliloquy:
"The man of my dreams has almost faded now.
The one I have created in my mind.
The sort of man each woman dreams of in the deepest
and most secret reaches of her heart.
I can almost see him now before me.
What would I say to him, if he were really here?
Forgive me, I have never known this feeling . . .
I've lived without it all my life.
Is it any wonder, then, that I failed to
recognize you?
You . . . who brought it to me for the first time.
Is there any way I can tell you how my life has changed?
Any way at all to let you know what sweetness you have given me?
There is so much to say . . . I cannot find the words.
Except for these. . .
I love you.
Such would I say to him,
. . . if he were really here."

Imprisoned by my own desires!!!

Its like opening your eyes and watching the world for the first time... its like "Alice" discovering a whole "Wonder Land". Its like when your mom splashes cold water on your face when you aren't getting up for office in the morning... its like we have lived a lie all our life and truth starts from here... its like tears, laughter, joy, heartache... its not an answer to your question, but its like provoking more questions against one question. its like lost in the ocean's waves... its like living again.

Today I finally came to know that the things i desired most were a mere lie to me... they did not matter as i thought they would... and may be im now imprisoned in those stone walls, may be my desires were not those which a person should expect from life. & now when i wanna escape, there isnt a way out!

everyone is imprisoned... before i share mine, i would like to know about my readers. Please share your desires which have imprisoned you... and we will have a poll among the 4 best answers.

Waiting for your responses :)... do share !!!

Found the end of the rainbow.. but therez no pot of gold

My mom always says that people would have been more responsible if there weren’t any mobiles to distract their attentions… in a way she is right, people are always on their mobile phones … while driving, working, running, walking, eating… thank God we cant use mobiles when we are sleeping.. (imagine your sister sleeping in the same room and she is "sleep mobiling"… just like sleep walking :P, scary, isn’t? )

!.. yesterday I received around 10 text messages while I was in my DARBA (my office is more like a closed box coz it doesn’t have any window).. so the text said that there was a beautiful rainbow outside.. it was undoubtedly the most beautiful sight I have ever seen.

… I was thinking about the magical pot, leprechaun's gold when I saw the rainbow. I entered "rainbow" in my brains Search Engine and I received hundreds of results. Havn't you heard the legends??? I m not a single "Point" person as I said earlier.. n I do believe that legends aren't completely false, there is a story behind each legend which could be true…


A lot of legends surround this magical sight. One of them says that at the end of the rainbow there is a pot full of gold coins. If someone finds the end of the rainbow, he can find the pot of gold… but this isn’t as easy as it sounds. As always there is a villain in the way of Hero/Heroine … The Leprechaun… In order to keep their golden treasure safe, leprechauns are said to spend their days scurrying from one end of the rainbow to the next, constantly moving their pot of gold to avoid capture…

Now imagine.. you being at one end while the (DASH) leprechaun is with YOUR pot at the other end,… and when you reach the other end, Leprechaun was quicker in reaching the opposite side before you :P… n when you start going to the other end… … … rainbow disappears :P:P:P ( m sorry I know its not nice to laugh at helpless people but I cant stop myself from enjoying the moment)

On a serious note… ancient people and even until today, people think that the appearance of the rainbow is the sign of the God. Scientifically, the white light of the sun is a mixture of all colors. After rain when the sun's white light rays struck the rain drops, these behave as prisms dividing the white light into different lengths of the waves causing the different colors… I soooo much wish I could explain it exactly like this when I was giving 8th class science exam :P

"According to another legend, if somebody passes underneath the rainbow, it changes sex! Those are men become women, those are women become men!"… now that is funny.. I doubt any sane women would like to be a man :P… specially if she knows a few men…

In Germany, many believed that for forty years before the end of the world, no rainbows would appear. Thus, people were relieved to see a rainbow; as the saying goes: "So the rainbow appear, the world has no fear, until thereafter forty years."… Thank God we are safe for more forty years :P

Again, the point (.).. .. if anyone has ever been the victim of rainbow legends.. do let me knw... i would try looking for Leprechaun too :P... who doesnt want a pot of gold coins :P

Piece of Cup Cake!!!

Like myself there would be many others who try and want to write something daily for their blogs.. but they fail... so i thought why dont i share my expertise with all the helpless people out there.. n also.. doesnt your mom alwayz tells you to help the needy people??

so start doing what i tell you to do ..

1. Open your Microsoft word page.. it can be any version of microsoft, and if you dont have your office installed (like our "phini" [no offence jani!!!] :P ) you can use any writing pad.. word pad, notepad. Yar!!!! Just find a place to write.
Then keep staring at the blank screen until your superman vision burns two holes in your computer screen.

2. Sleep as much as you can. After one month of hibernation, your brain itself would like to write something and you would be able to write a book on sleeping habbits and its interpretations I hope.

3. Take a long walk and bang with everything on the way with your head. Be Careful not to bang cars and ladies if you are a guy :P… I wont be held responsible for the consequences.
Bang into trees, walls, piller, poles.. this actually stimulates brain cells

4. Be inspired by our very own spiderman… hang upside down from the ceiling (b careful, do not try kissing someone in that posture). This might propel more blood to your brain and may lead to more ideas popping up in your head… (by the way it’s a research that kissing also increase blood flow to your brain :P.. im not giving you ideas, just shared what I read :P)

5. Get Married* (gives you more tragic incidents to write on). How else do u think "Ekta Kapoor" came up with so many saas baho dramas??
*Conditions Apply

6. Stay under water for 3 minutes or longer if necessary. ( this specially applies if you are very passionate for pursuing writing as a career, if you are not able to come up with good ideas, I say therez no use of such life)

7. Buy a new pen/pencil/stationary… ( this ones helps me a lot :D)

8. Attend a scientific lecture. Don’t forget to bring ur pen and notepad. I am pretty sure that you will get an idea every 2 min.

9. Remember your pak studies/IT entrepreneurship/cyber Ethics/ English/ and QTB's most boring and full of sleeping drought classes (in which you framed most of your short stories/poems). There may still be ideas that occurred to you then and you never wrote them down.

10. Read latest books in market written by famous politician. It will encourage you to write anything or everything as you see… even crap sells ;) (havnt you read Musharaf's Biography yet???)

11) Get inspired by this post and try to act on atleast three of the above ten points and try to write …. I assure you all will be thanking me someday ;)


CAUTION: Potential side effects may include burnt computers, bumps on head, broken down trees, global warming, hallucinations of being spiderman, being beaten up in public… not advisable for "Passionate writers" as following No. 6 will lead to severe reactions…and most importantly there is no way back once you follow No. 5…

OUCH !!! that hurts

Ouch !! that hurts

Ever thought why Newton created his third law??? “Every action has an equal and opposite reaction”. There is a natural law of opposites. For everything good , there has to be something bad about it… for everything happy, there had to be something sad… for every force of nature, may it be feelings or emotions , there has to be some balance in it… and that balance comes from the opposite forces.
As the love bird would soar into the sky… they same way gravity will pull it back on earth… usually gliding, but mostly falling down

(Remind me again why I started writing this :D??? )

We all need two things mostly… 1. To not be alone or to feel left alone. 2. To be appreciated and loved for who we are… a friend of mine told me that there is a difference between need and want… and when you figure that difference out, you may not have to deal with opposite forces that much.

Most of us have fallen in and out of love … most of us don’t have a good experience in it.. and most of us hate “LOVE”… I would not consider myself in that category as I have experienced the highest and brightest kinds of love but at the same time I strongly agree with the Newton’s third law.

The questions remains… what can we do to overcome the other force of nature… why don’t we create a checklist… if we don’t come upto the checklist… we might get ready for the battle with the opposite forces… n then only may be we will fight those forces in a better way

So ya… the check list…

• Do you fight on the exact same topic many times (say 5 times in the last month)
• Do you feel that its you only who compromises?
• Do you think you are not getting the respect you deserve?
• Do you feel like at the end of the day , you are the one being blamed
• Does he/she admits when he is at fault?
• Does he/she lets you be comfortable being yourself? And appreciates for who you are?
• Does he/she apologizes when its their fault??

Now once again, this checklist doesn’t necessarily means that he/she has fallen out of love with you… it just means that the other force has attacked and it’s time for you to do something about it … so hold onto your weapon.. don’t know what that is???? Its LOVE… its what made you fly…

Think about it… do you really want this bird to be caged again ??? isn’t you relation worth fighting for ??? if its not.. then ok.. but if it is… hold on to it… coz it definitely is fighting for.. ( sure is for me :D )

( Dedicated to all my friends, loved ones and family.. you all are worth fighting for … and I will love you and will fight for you … ALWAYZ :) )

My job Applications

i dint make that... my rozee.pk dashboard did... its kind of funny :P
these are the no of jobs i have applied in the last 6 months or so... :P

Guys in jeeps... cool or fools???

(i dont know why guys like jeeps so much... a friend of mine just bought a new jeep... so this is dedicated to him)

I’m sure many of us have seen guys jumping in and out of great big eyed beast… and the bigger and harsh the beast is looking , the more the guy is conceited. These beasts have big, proud and ruthless eyes (headlights) and nothing about them makes any sense. The whole idea of JEEPS does not fascinate me at all… In fact I think the thought of a high performance monstrous JEEP is almost entirely nonsensical.

My words may offend many of the guys (almost all of them) and some of the girls too. But whats the purpose of converting a simple cargo carrying, spacious , high performance engine that can help in off roads tracks and rough areas into a monster in black with orange or striking red stripes, over which you can see stickers with skulls..

I don’t understand why guys don’t go for decent looking cars instead of jeeps… or why don’t they spend to emphasize comfort, appearance, and amenities than anything else.

Girls girls girls girls girls !!!!!

Wowww… I have heard about girl power but never knew girls cud be so strong :D…way to go girls !!!... A friend of mine keeps asking me to find him a girl friend, whenever I talk to him about job, other friends, even when asking him to checkout my new posts on the blog.. he is talking abt girls… not just talking.. he always forces me to find him a girl friend…. so this post is dedicated to him…

Ill discuss some tips on getting into a relation and finding a good nice decent girl… (look right now he is bugging me again that he spent his valentines alone n dint buy a single gift for nyone :P)… here goes!!! For all the guys out there looking for girl friends….

So first of all A(no names.. I don’t want girls to run away from him :P)… so “A”, u need to like some girl… your class mate, colleague, neighbor, friend’s sister (not friends gf please) or any girl to implement the following tips.

Be a man:
Do not degrade yourself with your inferior thoughts. Look at the couples you see at on road sides, park & every where else.. If he can get a girl then why not you? ( even chaney waley pathans are busy on their cells… tu tum kaun sa different PATHAN HO.. same blood isn’t? :P)

First Meeting:
Buddy, You need to make her get relaxed. So, Do not stand in front of her like an escaped prisoner with rolling eyes. First relax yourself and understand the environment then start, Just say good day wishes, smile and move forward the conversation with interesting topics. There is a magic which always attracts a girl. In addition to this, “A”! please try not to talk about yourself.. girls don’t like guys babbling about themselves.

Be Yourself:
Pharyan na marna … Do not fake your personality.

Conversation:
When the girl is talking about an incident, her dead dog, her last visit to the mall or anything… follow only one rule “Shut up and Listen”. Stop commenting, stop giving suggestions unless asked, stop giving advices, stop arguing.

Know her More:
Try to know her likes and dislikes, her family, her job, her studies, her friends, her favorite food, her hobbies…. Now don’t start asking her these things like a survey guy, just know these things during the conversation.

Be a Gentleman:
Be a role model, be kind to others, talk nicely about everyone… try to be a gentleman infront of her. Its sure to make her heart melt.

Your Thoughts and Opinion:
If she says she likes Eminem and nobody raps better than him… ask her politely to listen to 50 cents or anyother, just say that is good too…. Do NOT negate what she is saying.

And most importantly: (a definite catching tips)
If she likes something, ask her different things about it… let her talk about her favorite things…Learn to play an instrument ( it sure impresses me :P)…Sing for her…Or try asking her to a dance…

If the above tips doesn’t work… pray to God or ask your mom to find you a girl :P… there is no other option… on a serious note, ill advice you to stop looking for love, let love come and find you … :)

PS: and "A" dressing ko maro goli,,, tum please aik shower le laina before meeting her... honestly my seat was just behind your seat for four yrs during exams... warna mera chowka kisi ne nahi roka tha...

SDLC (S____ Development Life Cycle)

(With special dedication to my software engineer and object oriented analysis and design teacher… without this chowka I would never be able to write this article today. THANK YOU SIR!!!)

SDLC (SHADI Development Life Cycle)

Now don’t tell me of all the websites freely available, you came to this one just to enhance your software design skills? Well may be you will know a little more about software design after reading this article.

Coming to the topic…

Introduction:

NO!!! SDLC is not System Development Life Cycle… as some of you have studied in your four years of computer or IT studies. Though it contains the same phases of development as in System development but with the System changed to real time HUMANS…

Here‘s a quick definition:

“SDLC is the process of developing information systems through investigation, analysis, design, implementation and maintenance.” (Special thanks to webopedia.com for offering us these combination of words)

But here is my jobless SDLC definition which is different from the webopedia.com (with my utmost apologies to the website).

But then again… do you really want to know wat SDLC means? Y not try shadi.com…does that ring a bell? Every one of us has been through or is going to go through this entrepreneurial business process of his/her life

SDLC is abbreviated for “Shadi Development Life Cycle” … following are the phases of its Development. Let us look at the phases involved in a Shadi Development process.

Step 1 : Feasibility Study ( Assess Needs)

Do we really want to start the process right now ??

Conclusion to Feasibility Study:

Definitely YES!!! ( if u r a girl, ama aba are always ready )

Shut UP and NO!!! ( if u r a guy… ama says “Nak pochna tey sekh lo”)

Stage 2: Requirement Analysis (Research the Need, Identify Possible, and select the best possible)

Projects are typically evaluated in three areas of feasibility: economical, operational, and technical. Furthermore Data collection may include:

Data collection

• Name ( Who cares! )
• DOB ( Decides if it is an uncle or a guy)
• Family members ( Of course you need to talk business with them!)
• Job and Salary ( this is where economical, operational and technical feasibility comes in )
• Phone numbers and mail ids ( for initiation of business negotiations)

This can be outsourced to agencies that work only during humanly hours.

Filtering of data

• Min Max bound on DOB for long term business partnering [ Uncles may reach heavenly abode soon! :( ]
• Maximization of expected revenues based on job and salary ( I bet the shopping rate of girls needs that!)
• Max bound on number of family members ( Similar to our nations objective - Lower the population, the better! :D)
• And of course height weight and looks won’t be a filter for the ama’s and aba’s.... keep a friendly khala or phopo close for that filter of data ( advice from personal experiences )

Stage 3# The Design phase : (or Constructing a prototype)

Now as we all know there are many types of prototypes, I wont go into the details of each one as each ama and aba chooses a different one.

As the contact information has been gathered now is the time for designing… looking for the best module which can fit to their own module (daughter/son)… and obviously we cant forget the high cohesion and low coupling part. But as it’s the JOBLESS SDLC so it would be changed to HIGH COUPLING and LOW COHESION.

Prototype Approval By client:

In this stage of design phase, the prototype is approved by the client. Obviously with the chaey and handmade somosaas and etc etc.

Agenda of the conference

• The delicious Chaey/Coffee combo table service. [Caution: Table must contain handmade snacks… if it doesn’t .. there is no harm in saying that its handmade].
• Formal inquiries
• Wide smiles. [:D EEE for no reason until ur cheeks ache]
• Presentation of previous annual results and future forecasts of performance.
• Expectation review
• Arrival at consensus on date of future communication ( mostly HAN or engagement)

Stage 4# Development (Development , Test and Evaluate)

Obviously many developers take part in this phase… from the dye wala to the tailor, from the bridal dress wala to the parlour which is going to wrap the system in to a striking gift wrap. And not to forget the flower decoration wala, stage setting wala, catering wala , tent wala , lights wala and the DHOL WALA.

Stage 5 # Implementation and Support Operations

Sign of contract: this is the final development phase of the process… Some people call it the nikah ceremony.

Stage 6 # Maintenance or Evaluate performance:

This is a black box to me so don’t ask !!! will let you know when it happens.

Thought of the day

Thought of the day 1#

The real art of conversation is not only to say the right thing in the right place, but also to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment.

Explanation: Ask someone who cant stop talking :P

Things to do when u r jobless

Things to do when u r jobless

Quite frankly, when the companies around you are downsizing due to recession in economy and when you are fretting how to pay bills and support families… I seriously doubt most people’s first thought would be to follow whatever im going to advice…

But when someone is jobless like me, and needs something to do with the brain so it may not wander around here and there, I came up with a list of interesting ways for myself and others in similar situations to keep themselves busy. Being jobless is devastating. Infact it’s the biggest loss anyone can suffer. Not only you are increasing the unemployement ratio, you are also loosing your routine, money, pride and most importantly a sense of purpose.

1# Finish Pending Work: The foremost thing you can do with your time is to finish your pended works. This can be the documentation of your final project or clean your wardrobe.

2# Watch movies, Socialize and party:
Find your old lost friends and hang out, have fun.. this time wont come again in your life ( or atleast we pray it never does :P)

3# Make most of being jobless:
There are countless things you can do to improve yourself, personally and professionally… how about finally loosing those 5 pounds which you were fretting about from the past 5 years.

4# Don’t limit yourself:
Don’t limit yourself to just one profession. There are thousand other things on which you are good at, the only thing is to find one. When you are jobless its a good time to look at what really matters to you, what you love to do or what you've always wanted to try."

5# Start a course/class:
Always wanted to join cooking class?? Isn’t it just the right time to give your hobby an uninterrupted time? You can join some constructive class also. For example , start learning adobe or corel, or ACAD or why not learn French. It’s a great language to learn… Parlez-vous français ??? ;)

6# Find other ways to pocket money (fair means obviously ):P
How about tutoring, this will not only bring at least pocket money, also you will be able to keep in touch with what LCM and HCF are and how they can be calculated. (Right now I’m recalling myself how HCF is calculated :$)

Start making handmade stuff, like if you like painting or pottery making, or candle making .. silk painting… handmade journals, diaries, albums. And then start forcing your family and friends to buy them :P

7# volunteer: I read somewhere that volunteering gives people a sense of purpose which is critical to the self-esteem of job hunters who feel powerless after weeks or months of a fruitless job search. By volunteering you would get busy and wont think of the recession in the country’s economy as well as you’ll b able to keep your mind busy somewhere.